December 31, 2017
Things usually aren’t the best the first time. Working out, writing, reading, anything great in life.
We need to get better by doing it more, by showing up, by finding the little nuances through experience that add to the serenity and pleasure of the moment. Reading a beautiful novel and becoming transfixed in the world of the characters, or writing straight from our unconscious, allowing words and thoughts to flow that we didn’t even know existed within us, it’s incredible.
But the beginning is awkward, it’s not fluid, it’s bulky. If we never give things time to germinate then we can never appreciate the pleasure in anything. All things can bring anyone pleasure, of course someone who is used to Instagram 20 hours a day won’t have the attention span to sit down and write for a full hour in the beginning or read for 3 hours, but they of course can overtime. We need to rewire the brain, but the brain is quick and once you continue to let him know our new life he quickly understands he must adapt.
I recently started jiu-jitsu and was humbly reminded of this, the fluidness of the experienced practitioners, the way their legs bend, and minds just flow, as my slow brain tries to calculate step by step and think or muscle my way through a movement as opposed to just going on auto-pilot and letting the kinesthetics of the move roll through my body.
I don’t have the nuance to it yet, I don’t have the feeling inside me to move gracefully without analyzing every moment, it takes time, it takes hours and hours to just relax and start to flow into the movement, letting my brain sit back and unconsciously guide my body.
Give new things enough time to flow, enough time so that you can appreciate the nuance without saying ‘this isn’t for me’ it isn’t for anyone at the beginning, but you owe yourself the wonderful feeling of experiencing the nuance of a craft for the first time again, once we stop going after new things we die, so stop retreating every time you feel a twinge of boredom & fear, allow yourself the time to appreciate the new practice you’re trying to cultivate.
Set a timeline before you even start. Give it at least 6 months before you quit, or do it at least 100 times before you decide if it’s ‘for you’ or else you’ll find yourself never sticking with much.