April 3, 2018
I keep going back to Eric Weinstein’s definition of a “high-agency person”, which he describes as “when you’re told that something is impossible, is that the end of the conversation, or does that start a second dialogue in your mind, how to get around whoever it is that’s just told you that you can’t do something? So, how am I going to get past this bouncer who told me that I can’t come into this nightclub?”
They are told they can’t build a brand new apartment complex because they don’t have the money, and they find their way around it.
They’re told they can’t become a great writer because “no one reads anymore.” But they understand there are ways around this.
They are told “no” or “can’t be done” or “not right now” and they don’t take that as a fact, but a mere opinion to be maneuvered around.
I’m working everyday to become this person, it’s difficult because our automatic response when we hear “no” is to assume it is indeed fact.
Recently I’ve been disappointed by the clothing options out there, it’s either $700 for a really creative hoodie or you can pay $40-100 and get what everyone else wears and is totally uninspiring.
So I called a local clothing manufacturer and they proceeded to tell me it would cost $60,000 to start any clothing brand, which for me doesn’t make sense when starting any business to just go spend that sort of money.
But at first, I was discouraged and believed them.
Then I called around more & more, telling my background in business and my passion for expressing myself with my clothes and many told me the same thing $25,000 or $45,000 etc, but after many emails and a few more calls one of the owners of another manufacturer said he would work with whatever I wanted and help me get the first ideas out there.
But most people stop at the first “can’t be done for under $60,000” and then they have a great excuse to go tell their friends why something couldn’t be done.
I was that person for a long time…and you feel helpless.
The person who takes no and just goes along with it never gets anything done.
I challenge you to take one idea that you’re really excited about and just see it through to the end, no matter who tells you what, who says it’s stupid or can’t be done or is impossible, if it takes months or a year, just see it through.
Seeing it through will give you way more than just the exciting project itself, it will give you the confidence to do it again & again until you embody the understanding that whatever idea you have can be done, and you can be the person to do it.
Once that happens, it becomes so easy to disregard “no” and it opens a much more interesting life for you…